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Hello,

My name is Lonnie. I own a Wedding/DJ Videography service in Buffalo, NY. I was recently approached by a lesbian couple to film, and dj there ceremony. First things first...

I am straight, but not narrow minded. I have never done a gay "Wedding" before, and have a couple of questions.

When I got to talking with the couple, they had mentioned that they ran into some not so nice people that would not do their ceremony because they were gay. I want to make them feel as comfortable as possible with my company, and with that said. All my planning forms for my usual weddings say "Bride and Groom". What would the appropriate terminology in the case of a gay couple (male or female) for their ceremony. What would be the best way to decipher the two on the forms. Is there such terminology? Also Weddings are not legal in NY, what is the ceremony called. (ie: Commitment Ceremony, etc)

I really appreciate your help with this. I really want the couple to know that I appreciate their business, and make them feel as comfortable with dealing with my company as possible. Also if there's anything else I should know about the ceremony particulars, I would appreciate any feedback, or resources you could offer. THANKS!

People feel differently about what they would like to be called/what they would like to call their wedding/ceremony/union etc. etc.

It is really a choice for the couple to personally decide.

So, if I was you--I would ask them what they prefer. If your forms are flexible, then update/adjust them accordingly. If you ask them honestly, in the same way that you just asked this forum, I think they will appreciate your honesty and genuine interest in working with them.

As for other ceremony particulars: pretty much up to the couple as well. Gay and lesbian weddings vary just as much as straight weddings do as far as decoration, size, formality etc. etc. etc. Ask them!


((Plus, I am always in favor of neutral words on ALL forms (in all fields) to begin with:

I.e.: Parent #1, Parent #2 instead of "mother" "father" etc.

Or, even having bride/groom________________ and bride/groom______________ (so the option is available to have 2 women, 2 men, etc.)

Or, Partner #1, Partner #2....

Etc.