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The date for our wedding is closing in, though still a year away, and I've been working on the preliminary guest list and I keep running into the same issue: my fiance's brother's wife. Her brother is a nice man, but his wife is rude, spiteful and a little over-religious. I'm worried about her making a scene at the wedding. Does anyone have a suggestion to either make it clear that she needs to keep her opinions to herself, or to somehow invite the man but not the wife without seeming rude?

Hi Allie-

I can't believe I had overlooked this post. It's got so much drama, it seems like this could inspire a great discussion!

Your wedding is now a few months away. What have you decided?

My opinion is that you must invite both of them or neither of them. Perhaps you could find a way to adjust your seating chart so that those who will break bread with her at the reception (if you will be having a seated dinner/luncheon) will enjoy themselves.

As a bride, you'll find that you don't get to spend enough time with your guests; so, in the end, I suppose that could be rephrased in this case to be: you'll be glad to know that you won't spend much time with your guests!