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Wow RedShoes, I have to echo all those above- the Flickr site is wonderful!!!

To actually add to this discussion- My partner is a bit more on the sporty side, not butch, but you won't see her in a skirt more than once a year. For our occasion, she's decided to wear a dress, though one that in more of a suit style, with a long a-line skirt. Feminine, but not like the princess style I prefer.

My girlfriend and I are struggling with this too. It has been suggested to us to go and look for a vest at a men's tuxedo shop if we can't find the right vest in a woman's store...have you come across anything that looks formal & fitted while not being too overally butchie?

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Originally posted by Nikii_Reid_77:
My girlfriend and I are just the same. She will be wearing a vest that really suits her. Pardon the pun. She likes the pants idea and such, but is not butch. She'll probably even get her nails done. But a Vest can come off very nice and not to girly or too butch.

I strongly dislike dresses. The last one I wore was over three years ago for my sisters wedding. It's just not me, but somehow when it came to my wedding all i could think about was a white gown. I tried on a bunch and at first it was akward and then I put on the one I will be wearing at my wedding and it was perfect.

My fiance is the more femme of the two of us though neither one of us would be classified as really anything. I guess we are both a bit like girlish tomboys. She is wearing a long black skirt and dress white blouse. Thats what she feels comfortable in. In the end its your day so wear what you like, what you feel good in. The idea that one girl wears a dress and the other wears a suit is just simply an idea. Forget what anyone else is gonna think because this is not about them. It's about the two of you.

I would tend to agree, wear what makes you feel the most comfortable. After all, it's YOUR day!

I have to agree to wear what makes you comfortable. I will definatly be wearing something from davids bridal but my fiance on the other hand wants to wear a white tux with a blue vest under to match my dress. I have seen my fiance in a dress before and it is not pretty and she was not comfortable and you could tell. She did not stand up straight or smile. So for our day i would rather make us happy!

I'm wearing the dress, and my fiancee is wearing a suit. She's having trouble finding what she wants though. She wants to wear a white silk pants suit. We've searched the internet, and found a couple of hits, but I thought I'd post to see if anyone had any suggestions on possible vendors or places to look.

My partner & I are both wearing matching tailed tuxes (we are males) This is something that we are comfortable with, and feel that ALL that are invited will be comfortable with too... EVERYONE should feel comfortable...ALL our family and friends ... We are on GROUND-BREAKING times, we are "trend-setters", this would not have even been thought about a few years ago, My partner & I have been together 25 years and finally able to get married in the church... YES, PLEASE... be comfortable in your dress, BUT PLEASE ...think about your guests as well... this is going to be a lasting impression on them as well...you may have a very accepting guest list, but most people do have those "on-the-fence" family and friends that they invite...the way that you dress is always going to be on their minds...Perhaps I am an old foogy and that's okay, sometimes we have to think about "others" as well as ourselves.... BE TASTEFUL in what ever you do...

My girlfriend and I are having the same problem. She has no idea what she wants wear and, well I don't think I do either. Well, I was originally thinking a nice pant suit but lately I have been leaning more towards a dress. But I don't want anything to frilly, something kind of simple, yet elegant, but is still me. I don't want people to be like "oh my god Jessica is in a dress!" Because I rarely wear dress, but I do wear them, just very rarely. I want something that is not over the top, but not traditional and frilly, something that when people see it they will say oh that is very Jessica. My problem is where do I look? How am I supposed to find somrthing like this? Help!

Well my girlfriend has bought her wedding dress...for $100 I might add...and it isn't even a used one!!! I, myself, after ALOT of looking found a pant outfit from Alfred Angelo that is just femme enough not to be over the top. I did have to drive 2 hours to go and try it on because most local bridal shoppes don't carry pants. You can pay for it and they will order it for you but I couldn't see paying for something I didn't even try on yet. You can find it on their website under mother's. Good Luck!!!

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My girlfriend and I have decided to get married on the beach in San Diego this August. She's more femme than me so she wants to wear a dress. I'm not the type to buy a men's suit. I do wear women's suits but I don't always like how they fit. So what to wear for a beach wedding when you don't want to wear a suit? That's the question. I suggested wearing a shirt with a tuxedo print on it but I'm not sure that would go over well. I'm thinking linen? Any suggestions?

Linen is a great idea! If your fiancee is wearing a dress, I think a great stylistic non-dress complement that works well in a beach setting is some wide-leg linen pants and some kind of blouse.

And, just because you're not wearing a wedding dress, doesn't mean you shouldn't get to have something tailored to you so that it fits properly!

I'm glad to see so many posts, because this is something I struggled with. My partner is really butch, so a dress on her would be absurd- I don't think she's worn a dress since she was a small child. I'm more femme, but I'm still not comfortable wearing a dress. I'm also really not comfortable wearing a suit! I'm the type who usually wears pants and a really girly top. So a wedding dress is an odd thing for me.
My partner and I sort of brainstormed it together, and here's what we came up with. She's wearing a thin summer button-down shirt with a cream colored vest and pants. I'm wearing a simple cream dress with a cream jacket on top. The jacket is a women's tuxedo-style jacket with pouf sleeves and tails sort of like a train. For me, it's a good cross between a dress and a suit.
I also considered wearing some tight cream colored velvet pants (like leggings) and a jacket with some kind of skirtlike thing attached.

Also, I think if you're going to wear a suit, it's a good idea to have it tailored. It's much more flattering since suits are cut for men's bodies. I'd love to see more lesbians in tailored suits.

When my fiancee and I first started planning, she said she wanted a conventional wedding dress, but without a train. I thought I would look for something like a mother of the bride dress--long and dressy, but in a color that would contrast with her dress. My thought was that it was better to have contrasting dresses than to have dresses that looked like they ought to match, but didn't quite.

Of course, she ended up picking out a dress that had a train. It was elegant and flattering to her figure. At that point, all the mother of the bride dresses I looked at seemed like they would make me look dumpy next to her.

Fortunately, the bridal store owner was able to come up with a dress for me that was similar but not identical in design, and that would look good with my fiancee's. So now we have two full-fledged wedding gowns with trains.

What is ironic is that at my first (heterosexual) wedding some 30 years ago, I had a very simple and demure dress--no train, no petticoat, lace up to the neck, long sleeves. This time around, I'm going with the strapless gown with the full skirt and train.