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My fiancée and I are wondering what exactly to do for the ceremony. We know how a heterosexual marriage goes. Males already up front, music, flower girls/ring bearers, bridesmaids, bride.

But how does it apply to us? Our wedding will only consist of us two (two brides), and two Maids of Honor, and two Bridesmaids.

In fact, there won't be a single male in attendance. We're planning for the Maids of Honor to hold the rings, but as far as entering, we're at a loss.

I did consider the fact that if there are two entrances into the room -- that we could just come from each entrance at the same time, and meet up in the center, and I think that might still be our best option, but what about everyone else? Should we have our Bridesmaids stay up front, and only the Maid of Honor walk before us, or everyone stay up from except us?

Dutchess -

You've given this a lot of thought and there is no right answer here except to avoid having to play "Here comes the Bride" twice. In California, we have seen couples enter hand in hand - enter from either side of the Altar or ceremony space - and enter together, stand at the head of the aisle and greet their parents and their bridal party as they process - and even greet friends and family as the y arrive for the ceremony and then be the last to walk down the aisle.

One of the great truths is that the vast majority of us have been committed to one another long before a commitment ceremony or wedding was acceptable (without snickering) for even family and friends. In these cases, our lives have already been joined. The ceremony serves as a way to for us share our commitment with friends and family - - and in some states to be recognized as having the same legal rights and responsibilities as other married couples.

Just be sure to make if comfortable for you and your spouse and not be too bound by tradition unless it is your choice.

This is a celebration you should both enjoy and treasure.

All the best!

Christopher